Imagine this scenario…
Okay, so you meet the cutest guy at the mall while shopping with friends. After a flirtatious exchange of batting eyelashes and shy smiles, Cutie asks you out. You accept. He has dimples, how can you say no?
The next week, during a romantic dinner at a nice restaurant, Co-worker greets you. He asks if you’re going to the company picnic next week. You agree to bring your famous cupcakes (cuz it’s a potluck picnic).
On the way to the car, Cutie flips out on you and backhands you for “flirting” with another guy.
Do you go out with Cutie again?
Now, what if this didn’t happen on the first date, but it happened on the 100th. After you’d gotten to know him. After you were aware of the job stress that’s been making him tense. After you KNOW how “protective” of you he is. Besides, you DID smile a lot at Co-worker and Cutie had a couple drinks. Maybe he misread the whole situation. You shouldn’t have primed the whole situation by being overly friendly.
If you think it’s your fault, can you really end your relationship (something you’ve invested months or even years in) with Cutie?
By now, you must be wondering why someone would accept such treatment. Any rational person wouldn’t, right?
Problem is, Domestic Violence strips someone of their confidence, their ability to think independently, and, in extreme cases, even their humanity.
When boiled down to its essence, Domestic Violence is about dominance and power. Not every case involves physical abuse. Verbal and emotional abuse can be enough to degrade the victim and rob them of their ability to fight back. Perpetrators rely on belittling and humiliating their partner. They make the victim feel guilty, they use the children as leverage, and they isolate their partner from other people so that their partner has no one for a soundingboard or support.
There’s so much more to say about the subject, but I think this covers the gist of things. I hope this post provides some insight into what victims of Domestic Violence go through and why “getting out” is a lot harder than one would think.
Be sure to check out Sensational Sarah’s post on psychology.
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